7 Reasons To Choose Divorce Mediation

Seven Reasons To Choose Divorce Mediation

  1.  You Have an Opportunity to be Heard

In contrast to going to Court and hiring attorneys, where you generally won’t get the opportunity to talk to each other, the divorce mediation process offers both the environment and support you may need to discuss issues directly.  This is critical as often during this time parties are avoiding each other, have stopped talking, and are not sharing information.  Instead of a fight, in mediation it’s a conversation where you work together toward resolution.

  1. You Control the Outcome

As opposed to having some third party whether attorneys or a judges, make crucial decisions about your family, you keep control of what happens in your life.   The Court process is limited in this way and mediation allows for more creative solutions.  The Court process doesn’t allow the space for acknowledging emotions, improving communication, or solving your problems.

  1. You Save Money, Time and Emotional Strain

When both parties agree to work together, the costs–including time, money, and emotional costs–are considerably less than those of a typical contested divorce.

Many high-conflict divorces go on for years. Prolonged divorces deplete assets, entail expensive professional services, interrupt business, and interfere with opportunities for personal growth and the desire to get on with life. Divorce mediation, by contrast, helps achieve closure in a sustainable way.

  1. You and Your Spouse Are More Likely to Honor Your Agreements

Since it’s the solution you both have come up with, you each have ownership of it. There is less need to worry about enforcement and you are more likely to stick to your agreements.

  1. Your Healing Process Begins

The inevitable result of a court battle, whatever the financial outcome, involves blame, bitterness, and damaged relationships.  If you choose mediation it sets the stage for communication and more harmonious relationships moving forward.

  1. You Can Feel Good about How You Handled Your Divorce.

During the transition process (divorce) you can close this chapter of your marriage gently rather than slam it shut.

All ways keep in mind:   How will your children remember this time?

In mediation, you are able to get through this with your self-respect intact. You’ll be able to say you didn’t run from the issues. You spoke up. You listened. You stayed at the table – out of your commitment to yourself and your family!   Wow!!   and ….

  1. It Works! 

The great majority of divorces even those lasting for years costing the parties a fortune end up settling by way of ageement so why not take control and Mediate from the get go, create an agreement that works for you and take advantage of all the benefits it offers you and your family.

by Susan Daya Hamwi,  Lawyer at Concordance Law www.concordancelaw.com  in Marina del Rey, CA  


over 10 years ago

During mediation the spouses are also able, provided they agree, to bring in any outside expert they may need, such as a financial planner or therapist. Also, they are always free to seek an attorney's counsel during any step of the process. The flexibility of mediation to resolve disputes should not be underestimated.

Clifford Rohde, Esq.
Attorney and Mediator
Albany NY

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