Tips to Healthy Communication with Your Child
Parenting can be a rough change of events and many parents will learn as much from their children as they can hopefully pass onto them. All areas of parenting can be rewarding when having the right tools to manage childhood and behaviors. Having a good communication with your child will open all the doors to provide a basic foundation for protecting and guiding your child. Many children are also facing peer pressures much earlier and it is a key component to stay active and communicate daily.
Setting a schedule for talking with your child may seem a bit over the top but it is an easy way to establish a comfortable time to communicate. This can start very early and can be initiated before your child can even talk. There are basically three times of the day with our children when talking is natural and easy part of our day to day schedule. In the morning when dressing and preparing for the day, afternoon after naps or school, or evening after/during dinner and or bedtime. Because many parents are both working and have busy careers it is probably only possible to be able to designate one of the times as a given time to be able to relax and communicate. You can establish this schedule early by designating a time in which you play or read to your child at a young age everyday.
Opening the doors of communication on a daily schedule will be much like serving lunch at noon everyday. Your child’s internal clock will be keyed and ready for this time and as they grow older this will establish a good timetable in which your child will feel comfortable in telling you issues and troubles they may be experiencing. It could be as early as preschool or daycare as your child starts to interact with other children and will face pressures from peers to behave in unfavorable actions.
When parents think of “peer pressure” they often focus on drugs, drinking or sex and believe this to be a teen issue but it does start much earlier. In early child development even at a young preschool age children will often start to personalize their emotions and some will be more dominant than others.
Younger children can experience peer pressure in a variety of ways including how they respond to dominating behaviors. If a child experiences pressure even as simple as another child wanting them to play a certain way, be mean or aggressive towards another child to fit in or to simply have to forced to be friends it is best to establish the foundation of how to deal with this type of pressure.
Make sure your child is prepared to say “No”. Make sure that your child can say how they feel without negative consequences. It may be wrong how they feel or act but it is important to explain why and to correct, not to punish.
When a child learns that certain actions are incorrect and why, they have a better understanding of how to discern their actions. If they have the ability to open to their parent for guidance it will better equip them to deal with pressures when the parents may also not be available. As they do grow into teens they have begun to master an act of control over pressure and can be ready to manipulate their way through hazardous and more complicated behaviors and keep open communication with their parents.