Breaking up can be one of the hardest things for a person to go through; especially if they were truly in love with the person they broke up with. It can feel as if someone just ripped your heart into a million small pieces without the consideration of buying you glue. Sometimes it may seem as if the world has just ended and there is no end to you pain. There are some things that you might be able to do to show your ex that you truly love him or her and want them back.
One of the first steps that you will want to take in your journey to get your ex back is to find out what was the cause of the break up. A lot of time couples will just seem to out of nowhere develop animosity towards each other. One of the partners will notice this change and react with feelings of betrayal and anger.
What is interesting is that most of the times when these things occur, one person in the relationship will have no idea of why it’s happening or its cause. It may be in your best interest to just call your ex and tell him that you want to talk about what has happened and what went wrong.
A very positive side to a relationship that has ended is that sometime spending time apart can make two people realize how much they really do care for each other. You and your boyfriend may end up getting back together without you even having to try. When it is true love, no matter what happens you will always end up back together. Another step into getting your boyfriend back will be just to get back on your feet.
If you seem way too desperate it can be a major turn off for your ex and give him the idea that it was a good thing that he broke up with you. Be sure that you are on solid ground before you make any type of move towards your ex, being confident can have the opposite effect of desperation and make your ex think you are well rounded and maybe he should give you another try.
Another thing that you will want to try is to make a list of all the complaints your spouse stated after you have had a legitimate conversation with him. This can help you in more ways than, it can let you see what things you need to work in order to develop more healthy relationships in the future as well as can let you see if the reasons your ex gives are plausible.
Sometimes you can think someone is a little more special than what they actually are and it is best to see if they think logically. After you have made your list about the things your ex did not like about you, then you should try to clean up your act.
A change is sometimes needed to make a relationship work. Never go into a relationship with the thought that you can behave and act the same way you did when you were single. A person should love and respect you for who you are, but at the same time relationships involve sacrifices that both parties need to be willing to make for it to work. Something else that you want to keep in mind if you ever plan on getting your ex back is to not be complete self-absorbed.
You have to realize that everything is not always about you and your problems. It may take time, but you have to respect your ex’s feelings. If he blatantly tells you he needs a cooling period, then give him just that. It may hurt a lot at first but it can show your ex that you truly do care about his feelings and his well-being.
One of the top reasons that people will break up will be due to the fact that they feel that their partner does not care about their feelings. It is best to try and reconnect on a stance that is built off of strength. Let your ex know that you are willing to go to couple’s therapy with him because you want to save the relationship.